Human nature, call it what you will, we humans seem to go through life gathering up a perception of how people are, a race, a gender, a culture, a nation. Before we know it this gathering becomes a mist before our perceptual eyes clouding our vision of the reality and truth of the person standing right in front of us.
Sad isn’t it?
How many opportunities of knowing someone great have we lost of that mist?
It is one of my pet irritants but I too am guilty of doing this. I realised a couple of years and not in a gentle manner either. I ended up hurting someone that I now treasure deep in my heart because I believed that they were just like all the other women in my life, oh how wrong was I!
I never trusted anyone, everyone was going to hurt me in some way it was just a question of when
Men were always not to be trusted because they were Jekyll and Hydes. One moment all sweet until they get what they want and then their true character pops out to say a big hello and crush your heart, be they brother, father, friend or partner, didn’t matter.
Women will always show love only to use it against you for their own gain. Manipulators to the extreme, worse than men, they’ll give you a one armed hug while the other is stabbing you deep in the back.
Those were my main clouds that have prevented me more times than I can count from getting to know great human beings. There are many of us that carry our pasts into our presents oblivious of the restrictions we put upon ourselves by doing so.
Men for instance get to know one type of woman and history repeats itself, a woman only wants their money, wants to use them for their own gain, critize, manipulate and all for their own gain.
Women believe perhaps as I used to, men can’t be trusted, just out for the shag and once they got it then they get real comfy. Men are adulterous and egotistical, manipulative and aggressive, they expect the women to do all the housework with little or no thanks, they expect women to be slaves.
There are many many “gripe-perceptions” as I call them, the list is endless upon endless…
Hand in hand with this mist goes the one where we start to get to know the person, perceptions in hand, waiting for them to prove us right. “Any moment now they are going to show us that we were right all along, that they are who we think they are not who they really are. Any moment“. A person will always meet what we expect them to because we will search high and low for any minuscule thing that fits our own agenda’s and by doing so we are doing the very thing we think they are doing. We are being the ones we think they are.
What if we take one person at a time and spend a few moments without our perceptions at our sides?
What would we find?
What if we were to look through everything we think they are and try to see who they really are?
What would we find?
No easy task but one I personally try to do each day that I awake. Through trying each day I have managed to meet some genuine people that most definitely do not meet my perceived ideas of who they should be.
If we aren’t careful we lose the very people in our lives that mean more to us than we realise with the gap in our lives only being felt once they have departed.
Sad isn’t it?